1.    Q.  Will the mediator decide who wins or who loses?

A.   No, the mediator is not a judge or decision maker. Rather the mediator helps the parties to make their own decisions and determine their own outcome—usually one that is a “win” for both sides.

2.    Q.  How can a mediator get the parties to agree when we cannot agree on our own? 

A.   "A good mediator has training and experience in how to help parties improve their communication, understanding and problem solving abilities. She also knows how to help the parties see the benefits of self-determination so they want to agree among themselves rather than fight in court."

3.    Q.  Will the mediator force the parties to reach an agreement?

A.    No, the facilitative mediation process used by this office is very deeply rooted in the notion of self-determination.  If the parties do not want an agreement, the mediator will not force one on them.

4.    Q.  Why should I pay a mediator when a judge can decide my case for free?

A.   "Going to trial is far from free. You take off work. You pay an attorney for work before and during court time.  Also, there is a good deal of time spent waiting in court. In Mediation the process is usaully quicker and the parties can divide the cost of the Mediator between them. As a result, in most cases Mediation is less expensive than litigation."